A Reply to a Comment on the American Health Care Act: Furthering the discussion

A friend posted a comment to my prior blog, and I have undertaken a reply…  In that response, he cited some information from Guy Benson, and while I obviously don’t know exactly where he got the information, I was able to locate at an article in which Mr. Benson makes those (or at least parallel) comments.  That article can be found at the conservative Townhall site.1  While it may not be his exact source, it seems to cover the points cited rather well.  I will address my concerns about other key provisions in later posts, and confine my comments here are only in response to the topic of preexisting conditions.  Mr. Benson states that there are four layers of protection for those with pre-existing conditions, which are, quoting from Mr. Benson’s article cited above:

  1. “Layer One: Insurers are required to sell plans to all comers, including those with pre-existing conditions. This is known as “guaranteed issue,” and it’s mandated in the AHCA. No exceptions, no waivers. I spoke with an informed conservative news consumer earlier who was stunned to learn that this was the case, having been subjected to 24 hours of unhinged rhetoric from the Left.
  2. Layer Two: Anyone with a pre-existing condition and who lives in a state that does not seek an optional waiver from the AHCA’s (and Obamacare’s) “community rating” regulation cannot be charged more than other people for a new plan when they seek to purchase one — which, as established above, insurers are also required to sell them.
  3. Layer Three: Anyone who is insured and remains continuously insured cannot be dropped from their plan due to a pre-existing condition, and cannot be charged more after developing one. So if you’ve been covered, then you change jobs or want to switch plans, carriers must sell you the plan of your choice at the same price point as everyone else. Regardless of your health status. This is true of people in non-waiver and waiver states alike.
  4. Layer Four: If you are uninsured and have a pre-existing condition and live in a state that pursued (and obtained after jumping through hoops) a “community rating” waiver, your state is required to give you access to a “high risk pool” fund to help you pay for higher premiums. The AHCA earmarks nearly $130 billion for these sorts of patient stability funds over ten years.”

My comments are as follows:

Layer One:  This is correct on its face, but the analysis simply doesn’t go far enough.  States that do not seek a waiver must offer the plans on essentially the same basis as before, and pre-existing coverage would continue for anyone currently insured.  Contrary to the assertion made, however, the McArthur amendment does not prohibit insurers from charging more for people with pre-existing conditions. The potentially enormous difference between “required to sell” (i.e, availability) and “required to sell at an affordable price” (i.e., affordability) is the key. Consider the case of a $250,000 Ferrari.  I want one.  That doesn’t mean I can afford one, which probably explains why I don’t own that Ferrari.  See the difference between availability and affordability?  On a serious note, however, if a participant insurer under the AHCA proposal charges those with pre-existing conditions 500% of the current standard rate, premiums for a single wage-earner of, say, 55 years old could soar to over $2,000 per month for the most basic plan. I recently obtained rough estimates of cost under the current ACA for a 55-year old single male.  Bronze plan coverage (which covers roughly 60% of cost) averaged $436.20 over five plans, while Silver averaged $589.40, Gold averaged $677.20 and Platinum averaged a bit over $775.40.  Multiply those times five and tell me if you think an average wage earner could afford $2,947 a month for insurance for the Silver plan?  That is more than half of that person’s gross earned income (assuming a $60,000 per year salary/wages). And this is for the 2nd from the least expensive plan.  Why 500% you ask?  That is the ratio that the AHCA permits.  How benevolent do you think YOUR insurer will be?  Do you seriously think they will charge less than the allowable maximum?  If you do, I have heard of a great deal on a unique and decorative transportation option spanning the East River in New York…  Maybe my analogy to the Ferrari isn’t so far fetched after all.  Please note that these estimates are imprecise.

Layer Two:  The arguments raised above against the Layer One “protections” apply equally here, but it is important to note that age-based rating (vested with each State under the AHCA) could result in either higher or lower actual premiums than the example cited above.  Under the AHCA, each State can now set its own age-based rating method, those methods are no longer subject to regulation.3   That means that the estimated costs I am citing may well be conservative.  What it is almost certainly likely to do is result in a patchwork quilt of coverage, where each States could have potentially quite different health care coverage than its neighbor, a situation further complicated if your State has a large community along its border (think Chicago and Gary, or the two Kansas City communities, for example).  The potential for gross inequality is only increased by allowing individual States to waive the community rating provisions.  That uncertainty is likely to only make the worse, with some carriers pulling out of some states and not others, and creating a constantly shifting mosaic of uneven and uncertain coverage.

Layer Three:  Setting aside the affordability issues, the protections afforded under the AHCA for pre-existing condition coverage depend on continuous coverage.  We know that about 23% of the roughly 21.1 million people with a gap in coverage during 2015 had some form of pre-existing condition that would render them uninsurable or subject to the increased costs allowed under the AHCA.4   That is about 6.3 million people who we can predict, with some certainty, will be directly and negatively impacted by these changes, along with some unknown additional number whose pre-existing conditions would not have precluded coverage pre-Obamacare, but which could potentially trigger increases in cost under the AHCA.  Gaps in coverage can occur for many reasons, including loss of eligibility under someone else’s plan (divorce, death of a spouse, aging out at 26, etc.), as well as due to loss of employment, lack of knowledge about the need or methodologies of obtaining coverage, or errant yet simple youthful assumptions about one’s own immortality and invulnerability.  Under the AHCA, the un-affordability of premiums in the Waiver States becomes yet another factor to add to this list.  The 23 million ADDITIONAL uninsured that the AHCA will throw into this mix essentially doubles the population of those left behind, creating a substantial uninsured “underclass” that will continue to burden society and to drive up unfunded health care costs.  This is exactly what the ACA was intended to stop, flaws and all.

Layer Four:  Throwing those with health problems into high-risk pools is deeply problematic.  We know this from experience and have good data from the results of the High-Risk Pools under the ACA.  An excellent analysis by Jean P.  Hall of the Commonwealth Fund (drawing on data from the Kaiser Family Foundation) of the problems associated with that approach demonstrates that High-Risk Pools can increase costs significantly.5 This is especially true for anyone earning less than 400% of the federal poverty level, i.e., the neediest among us.6  The Kaiser Family Foundation has an article discussing this problem, among others, and concluded that these programs are potentially problematic.  Further, the assertion that the high-risk pool under the AHCA could be modeled after “successful” pools operated pre-ACA has flaws.  Many of those State pools had exclusions for pre-existing conditions, and they reached an average of about 2.2% of the population (the range was from 0.1% in Alabama to 10.2% in Minnesota)7

These points My friend are all accurate, but they do not convey a complete picture of the potential impact of the changes to pre-existing conditions contemplated under the AHCA.  What they miss, as I have pointed out above, is the terrible impact this proposal would have on those least able to defend or protect themselves.  That is not how the America I grew up in acts.  I was raised to think of Americans as protectors of the weak, not their tormentors.

As always, your thoughtful responses are most welcome, either in rep here or to my email at dbdolnick@gmail.com.  Thank you.

Footnotes

  1. https://townhall.com/tipsheet/guybenson/2017/05/05/the-left-cant-stop-lying-about-republicans-healthcare-bill-n2322786.  This article also contains a link to a commentary/article at National Review posted by Ramesh Ponnuru, which offered similar comments (http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/447201/republican-healthcare-preexisting-conditions-waivers-misunderstood-moderates).  Both accessed last on May 20, 2017, at approximately 9:05 am.  
  1. http://kff.org/interactive/proposals-to-replace-the-affordable-care-act/ (accessed 27 May 2017 at 5:33 pm)
  1. ibid
  1. http://kff.org/health-reform/issue-brief/gaps-in-coverage-among-people-with-pre-existing-conditions/?utm_campaign=KFF-2017-May-Pre-Ex-AHCA-Coverage-Gap&utm_medium=email&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-8M-vVBz0aleUGxL_h2T7SnKQKBOrdd8XOOM8bnplB0xNOPRjrDFG_Rhu9eGwh7H1Svj_tSyJ9jZU3S2mAxGBgKXCq9zAbTIsKpszudOEufNsmaIDE&_hsmi=52007627&utm_content=52007627&utm_source=hs_email&hsCtaTracking=148c8fd6-8ba2-4f02-a508-45b17365a226%7C3ae33023-7ef1-44a9-a84c-b2a8d055e6bd
  1. http://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/blog/2015/feb/why-high-risk-pools-still-will-not-work
  1. ibid
  1. http://kff.org/health-reform/issue-brief/high-risk-pools-for-uninsurable-individuals/ 

Further Reading:

Health Insurance Coverage of the Total Population at http://kff.org/other/state-indicator/total-population/?currentTimeframe=0&sortModel=%7B%22colId%22:%22Location%22,%22sort%22:%22asc%22%7D

Sources of Health Insurance and Characteristics of the Uninsured 2012 https://www.ebri.org/pdf/briefspdf/EBRI_IB_09-2012_No376_Sources.pdf

Health Insurance Coverage for Americans with Pre-Existing Conditions:

The Impact of the Affordable Care Act – https://aspe.hhs.gov/system/files/pdf/255396/Pre-ExistingConditions.pdf

Realizing Health Reform’s Potential: Why a National High-Risk Insurance Pool Is Not a Workable Alternative to the Marketplace summary of the problems with High Risk Pools – http://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2014/dec/national-high-risk-insurance-pool.  The full report, Why a National High-Risk Insurance Pool Is Not a Workable Alternative to the Marketplace, is at http://www.commonwealthfund.org/~/media/files/publications/issue-brief/2014/dec/1792_hall_highrisk_pools.pdf?la=en – both accessed May 20 and 21, 2017.

http://www.politifact.com/florida/article/2017/apr/28/politifacts-guide-gop-amendment-health-care-bill/

http://kff.org/interactive/proposals-to-replace-the-affordable-care-act/ 

The Latest Attack on Healthcare

There are three core provisions that must be wrapped into effective health care coverage.  They are simple concepts that are, however, proving extremely difficult to implement. First, the plan must bring broad and readily available coverage to underserved populations. The “served” populations are already covered, with many among the fully employed having health coverage through their work. It is the working poor, the disabled, and those without coverage for any of a variety of reasons that must be brought in to the plan.  Those are the people who are often forced to wait until they are in medical crisis to seek care, and then who do so through the least efficient methods, such as using emergency rooms. Obamacare sought to correct this unequal distribution of coverage through penalties on employers and on individuals (an unpopular methodology at best), and through subsidies for lower income populations.  It was an imperfect plan at best, but it did result in significant reductions in the uninsured population. Both the original Republican repeal-and-replace plan (let’s just abbreviate that to R-R&R, eh?) and the current (May of 2017) proposal will have the opposite effect, and will likely result in 24 million MORE people becoming uninsured. That moves the needle in the wrong direction.

Second, any plans must be simple enough for average Americans to understand. Engagement is key, and costly surprises are counterproductive. In this, Obamacare failed.  As do both the R-R&R plans. They are all complex, unwieldy, convoluted and difficult to both understand and to navigate.  I have been involved in designing, selecting and implementing health coverage for businesses for many years, and I am pretty darn proficient in the language and structure of medical insurance plans. When I and many of my peers with similar or greater skills are challenged to fully and easily understand these plans (Obamacare and both R-R&R proposals) I cannot see how the average American could do so without herculean effort. When it takes tens of thousands of pages to set forth the rules and regulations governing a system, that system is self-evidently complex. That is exactly the opposite of what we all need.

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, any effective reform must prevent the payors from excluding people (by fiat or by cost) based on pre-existing health conditions.  Obamacare was a step toward that but was not perfect. The first R-R&R did little to change those provisions, unlike this current proposal which completely eliminates them by allowing the States to do so at will.  Changing the hangman does nothing to alter the fatal drop at the end of the rope. It is this last proposed change that is cruel, unnecessary, and despicable. It seeks to balance the political tables on the backs of the poor and the disabled.  It uses vulnerable people as cannon fodder in a war of words between the ultra-conservatives (mostly Republicans) and the moderates of both parties. It holds the American concept of fair play in contempt. It is nothing but a bunch of school-yard bullies kicking the kid who walks funny for their own ends. That’s no fun. I know, I’ve been there (not as the bully, just to clarify).  It’s time for the extremists on both sides to give up the concept that they have some divine right to force their narrow beliefs down all our throats. It’s time for them to stop playing with people’s lives and start representing them instead.  What are your thoughts?  Comment or e-mail me at dbdolnick@gmail.com.

And now… Back to the Healthcare Debate

In 2009, almost one in five Americans did not have health care coverage in any form.[1] By 2015, that number had been cut almost in half. [2]  Regardless of your opinion on “socialized medicine”, most rational commentators agree that providing health care to our people is better than not doing so.  Providing adequate health care isn’t altruistic.  Think about it, none of us lives in a bubble. Most of us interact with others throughout the day, with co-workers if nobody else, or with waiters, cab drivers, gardeners, and retail clerks.  Maybe you interact with your yoga instructor.  If those people are ill while working, your exposure increases.  Infectious disease does not respect societal limits or boundaries.  In a medical crisis, the costs for treating an emergency are likely to be either:

  • uncollectible and unpaid (and then re-distributed via increased billings and costs to those of us who do have coverage), or
  • borne by society as a whole through Medicaid or other social welfare systems (and redistributed to all of us via increased taxation).

Even those who can afford to pay some portions of such emergency care out-of-pocket can be saddled by enormous debt.  Medical expenses are a major cause of bankruptcies.[3] [4] 

These are only statistics, and they tell only part of the story. I want to tell you other parts, the respective tales of two friends. Both of them are productive and hard-working people, the kind of people you want living next door. One, at the time his crisis began, was employed. One was not. What happens with their  situations, however, may not quite be what you might expect

Let’s start with “Bob” (not his real name) who is in his mid-40s, and lives in Southern California. I’ve known “Bob” for about seven or eight years.  He works a variety of jobs to make ends meet, and spends a significant amount of his time hustling to get more work. He is a DJ, Karaoke Host, MC, and whatever else he can do to try and make ends meet. He is fit, athletic, intelligent, and, in my humble opinion, a fine human being on all fronts. Like me, “Bob” is pretty progressive politically. He was in favor of universal health care, or, at a minimum, universal health insurance.  “Bob” was quiet, respectful, and a polite advocate for social justice. He was also very healthy, or so we thought.

A week before I started writing this piece, “Bob” suffered a massive stroke. His girlfriend found him at home, unresponsive and unable to move or communicate. He spent five days in intensive care, and as I write this, is now in a hospital room, and not doing too well. They have weaned him off the ventilator, but he is unable to swallow or speak.  At present, he is being fed through a tube.  He is not able to move too much on his own yet, but we just don’t know how much impairment that he will sustain going forward.  It could be profound.  His recovery won’t take mere weeks, it is most likely to take a very long time.  Because he works several jobs, each less than full time, “Bob” had no employer-provided health insurance.  His earnings were not high over the past couple of years, despite working pretty close to full time.  Despite roughly full-time employment, “Bob” had no health insurance.  I doubt that he could afford it.

Now, in the midst of his medical crisis, California’s version of Medicaid (Medi-Cal) is being brought in.  The cost for his care to date is already likely to be well over $200,000, and it won’t get any cheaper. “Bob” can’t pay for that kind of care. He may not be able to hold gainful employment again for a very long time. We don’t know the extent of the damage this stroke has done, or how well he might be able to respond to it.  We don’t know how much function he will recover. His only options going forward are to hope that Medi-Cal covers his expenses.  His friends are trying to raise enough to cover any shortfall.  If those don’t cover things, he may need to file for bankruptcy.

Some estimates opine that 60% of all bankruptcies in America are related to or caused by medical expenses.[5]  That number is problematic, but other estimates range from 29% to 57%.[6]  Whatever number you choose, that’s hundreds of thousands of people thrown into financial distress to pay for their medical care.  For “Bob”, the realities of America’s failure to provide universal health insurance are not theoretical or abstract. They are real, they are imminent.  They are dreadful and terrifying at a time when neither he nor his family should need to worry about such things. The cost of “Bob’s” care will now fall on society as a whole, on all of us, through one mechanism or another.  The harsh reality is that no amount of political wrangling over ideologies will pay “Bob’s” bills. That requires cash.

Now the tale of the other friend, as promised. Frank (his real name, used with permission) is in his late 50’s and lives in Illinois. I’ve known him for the better part of 20 years. He is conservative politically and was not, until recently, a supporter of Obamacare. I’m not sure that he is, even now.  Frank has held professional level jobs throughout his career.  He was laid off from an upper management position in the Mid-West about two years ago. He hasn’t been able to find a steady job since then. Laws against age discrimination notwithstanding, nobody wants to hire an old man.  That is especially true if that person has a bad back, which Frank does. He has severe spinal stenosis.  One surgery was performed some years ago, with mixed results. His COBRA coverage ran out, and Frank turned to the Health Insurance Exchange. Unfortunately, His medical situation deteriorated.  Further surgery was needed to prevent paralysis and cure his debilitating pain.  Frank was barely able to walk, and couldn’t sit or stand for more than brief periods without extreme pain. The second surgery, I am happy to report, appears to have helped a lot.  Frank has much improved, with less pain and better function and feeling in his legs. We are both optimistic.

Frank and I corresponded just before the debate and defeat of the Republican ‘repeal and replace’ attack on the PPACA.  He said, in his email, “We are among those that [sic] will be severely hurt if this bill passes.  We are humans.  This bill has become political.  The effect on people is an afterthought.  We are on “Obamacare”.  It is not perfect.  But without it, I would be paralyzed with pain and no recourse.”

He goes on to state, “We are not getting anything free under Obamacare.  We have a huge deductible, we had to change doctors and hospitals, many prescriptions are not covered, BUT I was able to get necessary medical services and should be able to walk again. .. Obamacare is not perfect.  Maybe improve it?  The new act will cost [sic]  me to lose coverage.  If it is enacted, I am supposed to pay for it with a very small tax credit.  I am unemployed so have no income to be taxed ????  Really?”

There is a tragedy in both these stories that angers me. What no politician has been able to explain to me to date is why these scenarios exist in America. Why can we not provide even the most basic health insurance coverage to our citizens?  Set. aside for the moment the questions of healthcare itself.  Universal coverage for healthcare leaves the existing model of for-profit medicine alone.  To me, there is a difference between universal coverage and universal health care.  Dealing with the coverage questions address only how you pay for the care under our present system.  We, in the United States, do a pretty mediocre job of handling that transaction.

For example, we are a member of the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development.  Among the 34 countries in that organization, the US ranks number 33 in providing coverage for health care. We did beat out Chile, but that’s it. Thirty-two other countries do a better job than the US at providing health care coverage.  That’s embarrassing, and it’s appalling.  That it has improved under Obamacare is telling as well.  We have a mess on our hands, and we should be ashamed of it.  Instead of political wrangling, we ought to be ashamed enough to do something to fix the problem.

Now, before someone jumps up and accuses me of advocating for socialized medicine, take a deep breath and let’s get some definitions straight. “Socialized Medicine” is where the provision of medical care itself works under a socialist economic model. Obamacare isn’t socialized medicine. Obamacare changed some things about how we pay for medical care and set some minimum standards for insurance policies.  Obamacare required coverage for more people under those policies.  It required the policies to pay for preventive services.  It mandated coverage for pre-existing conditions.  It did not change who owned your clinic or your hospital.  It did not change employed your physician, or who owned the pharmacy you used.  It did not change the capitalistic medicine-for-profit model we use here.  It did not nationalize the insurance industry, pharmaceutical industry,  or the medical industry. So if that was your argument, you’re erecting a strawman fallacy.  Get over it, knock it off, and stop distracting from real problems that need real solutions. This isn’t just about ideology, this is really about people’s lives.  This is about my friends, and they deserve a great deal more respect than that.

NOTES:

1.  OECD (2017), “Social protection”, OECD Health Statistics (database). DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.1787/data-00544-en (Accessed on 08 April 2017)

2.  ibid.

3.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/simple-thrifty-living/top-10-reasons-people-go-_b_6887642.html

4.  David U. Himmelstein, Elizabeth Warren, Deborah Thorne and Steffie Woolhandler MarketWatch: Illness And Injury As Contributors To Bankruptcy; Health Affairs published onlineFebruary 2, 2005; doi: 10.1377/hlthaff.w5.63 (Accessed on 08 April 2017 at http://content.healthaffairs.org/content/suppl/2005/01/28/hlthaff.w5.63.DC1)

5.  Himmelstein ( op cit) and The Huffington Post, 24 March 2015, at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/simple-thrifty-living/top-10-reasons-people-go-_b_6887642.html (accessed 9 April 2017)

6.  LaCapria, Kim; “Money, Cash, Throes”; snopes.com 22 April 2016 at http://www.snopes.com/643000-bankruptcies-in-the-u-s-every-year-due-to-medical-bills/ (accessed 9 April 2017).

Good Measures

I spent some hours last week with a very good friend.  I don’t see him nearly often enough, nor for long enough periods, but regardless of the absences, I count him among the dearest of those people I have met.  Our relationship can well withstand the long absences, the frenetic catching up, the silences.  To me, those are all signs of a friendship in the  maturity of its span, one that is well beyond the formative blushes of infatuation (you may certainly call it “bromance” if that makes you more comfortable), but that has not yet reached a state of decay.  We can generally pick up the conversations right where we left off, and we understand each other’s codes and shortcuts well enough to follow the leaps of logistic we both make in the discussion.

My friend asked me to look over a manuscript he is working on, and I decided that the initial task was one best performed in person.  We had other business to discuss as well.  We have been working together for almost 20 years, and occasional visits are a way of ensuring that relationship continues smoothly.  As to the book, he doesn’t need an editor, someone is already handling that, and a publisher has already committed to the task.  Rather, he wanted my overall assessment of the work.  It is the first in a planned series of four books on a topic generally referred to as business success.  This one, the first, is on sales.  The topic is one where he has considerable expertise.  He also knows that I generally despise this genre of book.  I consider that most such works were written not so much to enrich the minds or lives of the reader, but rather to enrich the finances of the author and publisher.  There are exceptions to that, but those are, in my not-very-humble opinion, few and far between.  In my forty plus years in the world of commerce, I have read dozens, if not scores, of such tomes.  I have three book shelves dedicated to holding the fraction of them that I suffer to keep in my library.  Most of the rest I have given away, and I have thrown more than a few into the recycling bin, deeming their only value to lie in being reprocessed into some other paper product, preferably of the bathroom variety.

My ire with the works of this type has its roots in two major disputes with the thought process of the so-called “success literature”.  First, simply because a person has been lucky in their business dealings, and has the trappings of success, does not mean that they have any understanding or insight into how or why they achieved that status.  Frequently, they have confused sheer blind luck with skill.  They arrived at a point in their lives when opportunities were presented to them due entirely to extrinsic forces completely outside of their control or making.  Yes, they may have had the wherewithal to take advantage of those situations, but in general, no skill whatsoever was involved in the creation of the circumstance that placed them into a posture for the vaunted achievement(s).  I see this all the time at poker tables as well (yes, it is one of my last remaining vices.  No, I will not give it up).  In poker, dumb luck is often adopted as brilliance or insight, when in fact the mathematics of the game clearly dictated that the hand was not at all likely a winning one to play.  Such ‘heaters’ in the parlance of that game are great fun to ride, but they rarely lasts long, and those who rely on them fade as quickly as they blossomed.  To anyone who does not believe that status, location, friendships, gender, background and contacts play a key role in the parallel successes in life, I would commend the excellent work of Malcolm Gladwell, and those upon whose research he drew (the reference is to Mr. Gladwell’s book, Outliers, Little Brown and Co., 2008).  One premise of that line of thought is that while college and related activities are intended to educate, they are equally meant to form networks and friendships that will serve long beyond the fading of knowledge.  Many highly successful people draw upon those networks in a wide variety of ways to help boost their careers and accomplishments.  Those who cannot or do not take advantage of those relationships, or who have never had the opportunity to form them, are often, therefore, at a disadvantage.  Much of the real value of college or university education, therefore, lies far outside of the classroom or lecture hall, and those who do not attend such an institution are limited in proportion to what they have missed.

Most my friends (conservative and liberal alike) are well acquainted with my strong opinions on the topic of how anti-intellectualism and the devaluation of education have joined with outdated gender-roles, poverty/oppressive economic conditions, and racial and social injustice in further distancing these dreams from the grasp of the vast majority of Americans, but more discussion on that will await another day and another rant.  Suffice it to say for the moment that the illusion that any child can rise to become President of these United States remains one of our Nation’s most enduring myths, and one of the least true.  That is not to say that such a lofty office is the only measure of success, but the strong and occasionally brutal social and economic forces in our country do not aid well those in poverty should they seek a route out of that status.  Even the knowledge that such a path exists is beyond far too many of our youth, a sad truth that cuts across a great many geographic, ethnic and racial boundaries.

But back to my friend.  He will tell his own story of success when the book is published, and I have no doubts that it will be.  It is, after all is said and done, a good book and well written.  He will relate tales of his climb out of poverty, his fateful decision to take an offered college opportunity, and his discovery that the world consists of a great deal more than he saw from his rural childhood.  He will relate how his fear of returning to those roots drove him to understand the world of commerce, to grasp at proffered opportunities, and to persevere at them through failures and challenges.  He will write eloquently of how he hates to sell, and yet he has achieved some great successes at exactly that activity.  He has  even greater measures of achievement in motivating and training others to become more than he ever could.  And he will, despite all efforts of his publisher, remain very humble and grateful for the fates that met him at various intersections in his life, and who’s kindly hands he grasped to such good effect.  To me, however, the great key to this book lies not in the parables and epigrams he relates, but rather in the honesty with which he looks at one key concept that is often a distinguishing point in human behavior.  The basis underpinning much of this coming work is to talk rather frankly about how we face our fears.  The key premise being stated is that what moves people forward is not so much that they have no fear (a pathological condition) but rather how they relate to their fear, and what they do about it.  That level of honesty and insight is something that I see in the success literature all too infrequently.  The simple reality is that people most often will make safe decisions, and seek assiduously to stay within their comfort zone(s).  They only want to have what they will already know and are familiar with, they are not able to break out of their inertia and remain, to use an imprecise Newtonian analogy, at rest.  The motivation behind that choice is often fear.  In my experience and observations, there is a spectrum of responses to fear (as is the case with most things in life*), but the terror of the unknown and the unfamiliar is a potent motivator to remain safely within one’s artificially constructed mental cocoon of safety.  There is an old joke about there being only two kinds of people: those who sort people into two kinds, and those who do not.  The ability to embrace fear and to draw energy from that physiological response is, however, something that lies quite close to that artificial bifurcation. Most people that I have encountered tend relatively strongly toward one or the other poles of that emotional magnet.  Few remain in the middle or ambivalent in the choice, although I readily concede that context is crucial in such matters.  Those choices are not singular ones at all, but rather a series of such choices on a variety of many matters arising in great diversity.

But, back to the matter at hand.  As I work through my friend’s manuscript, offering some meager thoughts on facts cited or positions taken, I am above all else drawn to the core premise with which he is working.  This can be, if done well, powerful stuff.  I am acquainted with many good people whose lives are wrought through and through with fear.  A few of them are almost paralyzed into inaction at times because of dread and misgiving.  A woman very dear to me and my wife, and a very talented singer, grapples every minute of every day with an anxiety disorder so profound as to impact virtually everything she does, and she does so with tremendous courage and aplomb.  And in that lies a key.  None of us are immune from fear.  All of us have anxiety and uncertainty in our lives.  It is, however, in the heat of grappling those powerful emotions that much of who we are is forged.  It is in the simple yet profound daily struggle to overcome our fears and our doubts that we can truly discover our very core nature.  It is often in the moments of deepest despair that our naked selves lie in front of our own gaze, if only we would dare to look.

If we can but take in a little bit, a small glance into that mirror each day, then perhaps we can learn who we really are at our core.  From that, perhaps we can grow more truly into who we want to become with a greater measure of satisfaction than we find in the mere materialism of wealth.  In that task, our enemy is not only ourselves and our fears, but all the distractions, all the noise, and all the trivialities with which we fill our lives, such as the acquisition of trinkets we neither want nor need, or the hours spent in watching mindless drivel on television so badly mislabelled as reality.  And that is why I choose, today, yesterday, and I hope tomorrow, to measure my wealth (small and insignificant as it is) not by the size of my bank accounts or by the vehicle I drive.  I chose to measure my wealth in the friends I count dear, and in their wisdom and their honesty.  I measure my worth largely by how much I can be vulnerable with them, and by how much I trust them.  I measure by how much I can, in turn, rely on them to be as honest with me, and as open.  To me, these are the jewels of my life, worth so very much more than anything else that I purport to own.  And those gems are the ones I will guard carefully, and in which I choose to invest.  That investment in my friend’s book is, therefore, an investment in my own wealth and satisfaction.  As I have mentioned above, this will be a very good book, despite my efforts somewhat more than because of them I suspect, but I am happy to have played some role in helping another achieve what they have long sought, especially when the message is one that is close to my own heart and mind.  That, to me, is more than enough reward or a few day’s work, and quite sufficient recompense in exchange for some honest comments.

*I tend inherently and rather strongly to reject the myriad of false and artificial dualities so commonly accepted in today’s world.  Those improper bifurcations of complexity into simple polar opposites offend me.  These highly incorrect choices of either/or (with all due apologies to Søren Kierkegaard) serve only to limit the full spectrum of realities that we have in front of us, and to mask the beauty and subtlety of our lives.  My experiences with and rationale for that rejection will, perhaps, become a topic of  further discussion, but that needs wait for another piece of scribbling. 

Conversations at the bar

I was sitting at a bar last week. My favorite bar; that being the one in my living room. Dinner was over, about 18 showed up for our irregular gathering on this particular Tuesday. One of them, we’ll call him “Bob,” was engaged with me in the quaint custom known as “catching up.” It is a viable substitute for significant conversation when time is short, and is generally tolerable for brief durations.  Bob and I have not seen each other meaningfully in many months, and rebuilding the comfort of friendship isn’t always easy.

Having run the gamut of the ordinary and the cliche, we began discussing topics of some actual substance. Bob, a staunch Roman Catholic, is not so enamored of the current Pope, although he stops short of disagreeing with Vatican directions, doctrine, or policies. I have little to offer on those topics from a religious perspective, being an atheist, and we had established early in our relationship that Bob did not particularly want to discuss those issues. We acknowledged that our religious and political views are quite different, and we customarily set those aside in the name of friendship and camaraderie.  As Thomas Jefferson wrote to William Hamilton in 1800, “I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as cause for withdrawing from a friend.” 1

That noble view was about to be tested.  Another of our guests, a bearded gentleman cross-dressing for the past few months (and planning on doing so through November of 2015, more on that below), breezed past us. Bob shook his head ruefully and clucked his tongue. He actually, really and truly, clucked his tongue. I hadn’t heard that sound since visiting my great-grandmother’s house in Rockford, Illinois.  The last such visit with Gram was quite some time ago, as she passed in about 1959, at 97 years of age. But there it was, a genuine, unadulterated and undeniable tongue-clucking. A public tongue-clucking to boot.  I saw at least one head snap around.  While I cannot be entirely certain of the cause, I am satisfied as to the connection.

Friends can disagree, I reminded myself.  Friends can disagree. Such an obvious display of disapproval and judgment, however, was beyond the pale.  I became quite uncomfortable in my role as host of the event.  In that role, I strive mightily to remain above participating in any religious, political, or social fray.  Mostly, I succeed in that effort.  This time, however, I could not let the derogation pass unremarked. I addressed Bob squarely.  Joe is cross-dressing in support of a friend of his, I explained, a friend who has endured bullying and harassment because of his cross-dressing.  Joe is seeking to show solidarity and to raise awareness about the difficulties that gender-crossing, gender-bending, or transgendered persons face in our society.  I related a short history of Joe’s experiences as I understood them. You can read more about that at Joe’s Blog on Tumblr, Beard and Sequins. I recommend it, in fact.  You can find his blog at http://beardandsequins.tumblr.com.

Bob, however, chose to seize on current affairs to bolster his opinions that such activities are wrong. “HA!” he exclaimed. “Just like that Bruce Jenner guy!”  He added several rude comments that I will not repeat.  Did I mention that I was raised to remain above the fray when hosting an event? Decorum mattered in my family, deeply. Social niceties were to be maintained when hosting. Always.

And now I must confess; I have let my forebearers down. I tried diligently to remain calm and collected, as I pointed out that “Bruce” Jenner was in the past, and that Caitlyn Jenner was here, now, and real. I pointed out that we all had the right to self-determine our identities, and that Bob’s choice to publicly identify as a practicing Roman Catholic was no different than Caitlyn Jenner’s choice to acknowledge her own identity. I pointed out that individualism and the courage to follow one’s own path were characteristics of the “American Way”. Above all, I pointed out that Caitlyn Jenner has demonstrated such tremendous courage in making a deeply personal transition in her life extremely public. I asked Bob if he knew what it felt like to not fit in, to be a stranger in your own skin, to know, beyond all doubt and to an absolute certainty that you were assigned to the wrong gender at birth. I asked Bob if he understood how fragile and fleeting life is, and how painful it can be if lived in shadows and deception. I asked Bob how he, follower of a god who spoke of acceptance, of compassion, and of love could pass such judgment and rain such condemnation down on another human being? I was quiet, contained and controlled, but I lost it. I wish I could be ashamed of that, but I am not.

To his credit, Bob was abashed. He acknowledged that he had not thought of the issues from those perspectives. It was certainly polite of him to say that, and I am grateful for that kindness. He chose not to linger at the event, and our parting was cordial.  And thus, we will see. We will see if one voice can become many, and we will see if firm but respectful disagreements can be resurrected in an age of sloganeering and jingoism. And as to my arch-conservative, staunchly Roman Catholic friend, Bob? We’ll see if he comes back on some other Tuesday. I hope he does.

  1.  https://www.monticello.org/site/research-and-collections/i-never-considered-difference-opinion-politicsquotation